I've recently been made the "activities chairperson" in our ward. This basically means that I'm responsible for planning a bunch of parties and get-togethers for our church. Unfortunately for me, the previous person in charge of this endeavor was amazing, (shout out to you Rachel) so I have a very hard act to follow. ( As a side note, if at any time you attend a terrific activity, whether with your own church or elsewhere, I would love to hear about it. When it comes to this sort of thing I am all about plagiarizing other's great ideas!) ....
...On to the real reason I am writing about this. Most every year I make my family's Halloween costumes. I just like doing it. (In some way, I think it connects me to my own childhood and especially to my Mom. My Mother was, and is, an amazing "costume developer." If it was Halloween, or you had a presentation for a class, or a school assembly to perform in , she was your gal. It's an amazing gift she has. You need to be a mad scientist? An Indian Chief? A bunch of grapes? A disco freak? Odds are my Mother had just the thing you needed hiding in her closets of wonder- and with the help of her magic sewing machine, within minutes you had the most fabulous, often outrageous, ensemble to delight everyone.......so every time I try and make a costume for my own family I think of her and all those great "dress-up" memories she gave me. I want my kids to have those kinds of memories with me- and thus, when it comes time to be a Jedi or whatever- I get out the goods and start to create.)
Now- back to the beginning- since I have found myself in charge of things, like Halloween parties, I have also found myself with far less time and energy to make my families' costumes, so I decided I would just do the normal thing and buy them. In fact, I was really looking forward to how easy this was going to be. I went to the local Costume Superstore and found adorable attire for the kids and even my husband. Now- onto myself. Where could I find a fun costume for me? It should be in the women's section of the costume store. But, I was soon to discover something very disturbing...
....In the year 2007 a woman, and a mother, such as myself cannot buy a costume in the store. Why, you ask? It seems the only costumes sold for an adult women are for "babes,"- or what I would call "women for sale." For example, would you like to be nurse? Sorry- your only option is to be a "naughty nurse." Perhaps you would like to be something cute like "Holly Hobby?" Sorry again- you're only option is to be the ultra, super slutty, Holly Hobby. What is going on here?
I do not have a problem with "bedroom costumes." They certainly have a place in any fun, healthy, and married (had to throw that in there) relationship. But, that is what they are- bedroom costumes! And that is where they should stay. What self-respecting woman, or mother, wants to parade around like a royal slut for the public? It would seem that costume makers are convinced that this is what the American woman wants. "Party City" has all of about 2 women's costumes that consist of more than a bra and loin cloth! I felt like I needed to shield my 5 yr. old's eyes from the display shelves. Was this Party City, or some sort of porn shop!
I am getting pretty fed up with living in a society that has so completely demoralized woman that we can't even show up to our own church Halloween party as a regular vampire! Oh no- a woman of today would never want that- she wants to be a "hungry like a wolf" vampire- if you catch my drift! Ugh!!
So-it's back to the sewing machine for me and if I never find the time to make something I can wear without shame, I will just have to be plain old Amanda.
Atleast I can keep my self-respect.