Two days ago I got into a conversation with my neighbor and he let me know that his wife had been ill. In fact, she had been taken by ambulance the previous night due to a blood clot and had suffered a mild heart attack. Geepers! Then he confesses that he did not go to the hospital with her because it was late at night and he couldn't leave the children who were fast asleep in their beds.
This is where my stomach dropped and I realized what a rotten neighbor I have been. Sure, I've been friendly. I smile and wave and comment on the weather whenever we both happen to be outside, but that's about it. Not once have I invited their family over or taken them Christmas cookies. I've never bothered to get past any formalities and become more than just "Mrs. Whats-Her-Name." For crying out loud- I didn't even know their last name until this week! And now, when they could have really used some help, I was of course oblivious and they were of course uncomfortable calling on me for their aid. In all reality I am a stranger, and most people do not trust strangers to watch their kids or seek them out for help when they are in need.
If I had taken the time to be a friend they could have called on me and he could have been with his wife in that ambulance instead of sending her off and desperately hoping she would be all right and come back to him. (The image of that makes me nauseous and horrified!! I am a wretch!!!)
To put it all in a nutshell. I am ashamed of my un-neighborliness and I vow to reform.
So.... I made this little map. Looking at it embarrasses me. I have lived her for 4 years and it is inexcusable that there are so many question marks on it.
Who are these people? I must fill in these blanks!!
If you happen to be one of my friendly neighbors, please accept my apologies for being self-absorbed and unaware of you. And now- be prepared to be bombarded!!
In a few years I might be known as "Mrs. Always- Bringing-Cookies-and-In-Our-Business," but at least you'll know me, and possibly feel comfortable giving me a ring should you need some care and help from a good neighbor.